If you google “singleness” or “life after divorce” the top search results include things like “find your truth” and “work out what makes YOU happy”. This is very unhelpful advice in life generally, let alone when one is single and the general climate is about when to date (again) and how to work on yourself so you are max-level attractive to a prospective partner. The only “single” time one should spend, according to the advice of the world, is in working on oneself in order to be in the right place to couple up again.

For various reasons, I will be staying single. But about a year ago, I decided that my choice needed to be a more declarative commitment. I didn’t want to sit quietly in the grey area of life. I believe there is enormous significance in a public declaration. Why? Let me step you through some of my thinking.

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