Grief is real, and it is awful. The older I get the more I know the truth of that deep in my being. Single or married. Same or opposite sex attracted. Young or old. Male or female. We all have unique griefs and hardships in this life. We all experience those griefs and hardships in unique ways, and to the very depths of our souls. Much of the time, the others around us are unable to fully understand just how heavy those griefs are. And yet, as a friend recently reminded me:

“We are called to carry each other’s burdens. Not to score them up against one another”.

As a never-married single Christian woman, I want to help carry the burdens of my same-sex attracted single brothers and sisters in Christ. I may not ever be able to fully understand the uniqueness of the load they are bearing. But I do want to be able to share that load. I do want to walk beside them and take on some of its weight. I do want to help make it is easier for them to bear up under.

But what I don’t want to do is to pit their grief against mine. What I refuse to do is to make this into a contest based on some unknown formula of who has it worse, and so whose back God has more.

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