Singleness – Single Minded

Loving Singles | Dani Treweek

This is an audio recording of Loving Singles by Dr Dani Treweek. It was recorded at the 2019 Single Minded Canberra conference

Singleness and God’s Plan for Our Lives | Chris Thomson

This is an audio recording of Singleness and God’s Plan for Our Lives by Dr Chris Thomson. It was recorded at the 2019 Single Minded Canberra conference

Ali’s Story

Welcome to another episode of Single Minded Stories. Today we meet Ali, who describes her single minded story as one of gratefulness. Listen now to find out why.

Kevin’s Story

Welcome to our final episode of Season 2 of Single Minded Stories. Today we meet Kevin, who describes his Single Minded story as intentional. Listen now to find out why.

George’s Story

Welcome to another episode of Single Minded Stories. Today we meet George, who chose the word ‘long’ to describe his Single Minded Story. Listen now to find out why.

Justice’s Story

Welcome to another episode of Single Minded Stories. Today we meet Justice, who has another great story to share.

Simon’s Story

Welcome to another episode of Single Minded Stories. Today we meet Simon, who describes his Single Minded Story as rewarding. Listen now to find out why.

On Sitting Alone in Church | Dani Treweek

A few weeks ago, a podcast interviewer was asking me about some of the practical complexities and pastoral challenges that single Christians often face in churches today. When asked that question, I often mention that, for some single Christians, something as simple as where to sit in church can be deeply profound and deeply perplexing. […]

Life in the Family of God | Dani Treweek

Let me be very clear. Marriage is a wonderful gift from God. It has enormous significance, enormous meaning, and enormous importance. Marriage is very, very good, and it is able to bear very, very good fruit. Most wonderfully, our marriages are meant to point us towards the eternal marriage between Christ and the Church. Marriage […]

Let’s Be Friends | Dani Treweek

Of course male/female friendships have the potential to be complicated, compromising or unhealthy. Sadly, all human relationships have this potential. Why? Because they are relationships between sinful humans. Friendship is no exception. And of course, close male/female friendships between two people who are not married to each other have the potential to develop into something […]

Avoiding the Either/Or Trap of Christian Singleness | Dani Treweek

I embarked on my PhD research into a Christian theology of singleness back at the beginning of 2016. If I was beginning my PhD studies now, in 2023, I’d be entering into a very different landscape. There have been so many changes to the Christian singleness conversation across the last five to six years in […]

Friends, We Are Not in a Grief Contest | Dani Treweek

Grief is real, and it is awful. The older I get the more I know the truth of that deep in my being. Single or married. Same or opposite sex attracted. Young or old. Male or female. We all have unique griefs and hardships in this life. We all experience those griefs and hardships in unique ways, and […]

Let’s Talk About the Gift (Part 1) | Dani Treweek

OK. Let’s talk about that gift. You know the one. But if we are going to talk about it, then let’s really talk about it. Let’s do the deep dive, ask the hard questions, and see where we land. Check out this excerpt from the Focus on the Family website: For the moment let’s focus our […]

Hey single Christian. Your celibacy is uniquely meaningful | Dani Treweek

When we last chatted I reminded you of just how very ordinary us single, celibate Christians really are. (If you missed that little discussion, stop, click this link, read, and then return here.) If it left you feeling a bit, well… average, #sorrynotsorry. I mean, that was kind of the intention after all! But don’t worry, because here comes […]

Hey, single Christian. Your celibacy isn’t extraordinary | Dani Treweek

So here’s the thing. Single Christian, your celibacy is totally ordinary. Yep. You heard me. We are utterly unexceptional. Unremarkable even. Of course, our celibacy is also uniquely meaningful. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves shall we? We’ll get to that in the next post in this series. (Pssst. I’m watching you! Don’t skip ahead!) For now though […]

The Loneliest Day of the Year | Dani Treweek

What day is the loneliest day of your year? For some, it is Christmas Day. For others, it is Mother’s or Father’s Day, or perhaps their birthday. For yet others, it is a date that seems entirely innocuous to the rest of us but is hugely significant for them. For me, it’s none of the […]

The Cumulative Weight of the Evidence | Dani Treweek

I was outside the restaurant, waiting for my friend. She arrived a little late, a little flustered, a little distracted. “Sorry!”, she hurriedly apologised. “I was listening to the latest episode of Serial and lost track of the time”. “Serial?”, I asked, “What’s that?” “You know. Serial. The podcast”, she replied “Podcast?”, I asked, “What’s […]

And the Gold Medal of Singleness Goes To… | Dani Treweek

Recently, a friend directed me to a newly published article on singleness. He thought I might like it. He was right. Mostly. Stephen Wellum begins his article, Singleness in the New Covenant, with this question: “Where does a single person “fit” in the Bible amidst the abundant blessings of fruitfulness, fertility, and family? The answer is found by […]

Marriage: God’s Solution to Sexual Temptation? | Dani Treweek

I’ve played enough games of Monopoly during my lifetime to appreciate just how powerful the Get Out of Jail Free card is. Having that trump card in your hand can make the difference between climbing to the heights of Mayfair or slumming it on Old Kent Road for most of the game. That one magic card has […]

On ‘Old Books’ and the Single Christian Life | Dani Treweek

C.S. Lewis once wrote that ‘every age has its own outlook. It is specially good at seeing certain truths and specially liable to make certain mistakes.’ Though written in the mid-twentieth century, Lewis’s words are no less true today. Like all of those before it, our age has its own outlook. We twenty-first century people […]

The Heavenly Significance of Singleness (and Marriage) | Dani Treweek

In his recent article, Does Singleness Show Heaven? author Matthew Capone argues there is no biblical warrant to conclude that singleness in this life witnesses to or anticipates the life to come. More than that, he concludes that earthly singleness is a “not good” reality whose only consistently unique comfort is found in the knowledge that it will […]

What Singleness Reveals about the World to Come | Barry Danylak & Dani Treweek

With rates of long-term singleness on the rise across Western societies, evangelicals are increasingly reflecting on the challenges this poses for the church. In The Meaning of Singleness: Retrieving an Eschatological Vision for the Contemporary Church, Danielle Treweek reframes the discussion around the Bible’s picture of the creation to come. Author and theologian Barry Danylak spoke […]

Singleness Lessons I Learned from the Early Church | Dani Treweek

Lately, Christians have cast their minds and social media musings back to the early church on the topics of singleness and sexuality. Much of the conversation centers on past spiritual practices of celibacy and claims about what early church leaders taught about singleness. Some suggest that early church leaders enthusiastically ‘tore down’ the centrality of marriage within […]

Adam’s Aloneness Wasn’t Just His Singlehood | Dani Treweek

As I watched the scene, I couldn’t help but be struck by the image of Adam by himself in the Garden of Eden. The words of Genesis 2:18 are very familiar to us today: “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone.’” Or at least, they are very familiar […]

Upholding the Dignity of Singleness in the Church | Matt Hodges

I recently preached a sermon on singleness and was shocked by the feedback I received. Several single brothers and sisters told me it was the first time they’d heard singleness addressed from the pulpit, at least in a way that wasn’t telling them how to date or find a spouse. One sister said it was […]

Choice and Circumstance: Not a Single Thing | Dani Treweek

Have you noticed that we humans tend to excel at viewing the world through a lens of either/or? That thing is either big or small. It is either fast or it is slow. It is either enjoyable or it is boring. And so on. Not only that, but we usually consider our designation of something […]

Declaring Myself Single | Ruth Baker

If you google “singleness” or “life after divorce” the top search results include things like “find your truth” and “work out what makes YOU happy”. This is very unhelpful advice in life generally, let alone when one is single and the general climate is about when to date (again) and how to work on yourself so […]

Singleness: A Personal Testimony | Jane Tooher

There are many privileges involved in preparing and giving Christian talks. One of those is growing in your own understanding, learning new truths and relearning old ones. Not so long ago I had to give a talk on singleness and in the course of preparing these are some of the truths that were impressed upon […]

The Key to Companionship for Singles | John Lee

Most of the advice I’ve received as a single man has been about finding a spouse. Whether it’s exhortations to grow or encouragements to persevere, conversations are anchored to the anticipation of future marriage. Marriage is a beautiful, God-glorifying gift that should be encouraged and pursued by anyone who desires it. But future hopes of […]

The Plausibility Problem | Ed Shaw

It’s all very well to say that the Bible is clear when it talks about homosexuality. But is it realistic? Isn’t it unrealistic and unfair to those who struggle with this issue? Doesn’t it condemn them to loneliness, a lack of fulfilment and the loss of basic human satisfactions like sex and marriage? Is what […]

Breaking the Marriage Idol | Kutter Callaway

Should all Christians be married? Although we might quickly respond “no,” our cultural stories and norms—including those in the church—often communicate “yes.” Theologian and husband Kutter Callaway considers why marriage, which is a blessing from God, shouldn’t be expected or required of all Christians. Through an examination of Scripture, cultural analysis, and personal accounts, he […]

The Single Issue | Al Hsu

Nearly half today’s adult population is unmarried. Most churches, however, emphasize marriage and family in a way that leaves many Christian singles feeling like second-class citizens. Although Jesus himself was single, the single state is often regarded as a problem in itself (rather than as having problems, as marriage does). By contrast, ‘The Single Issue’ […]

Redeeming Singleness | Barry Danylak

Though marriage is highly esteemed throughout Scripture, the Bible also affirms singleness as an important calling for some Christians. Redeeming Singleness expounds a theology of singleness that shows how the blessings of the covenant are now directly mediated to believers through Christ. Redeeming Singleness offers an in-depth examination of the redemptive history from which biblical singleness emerges. Danylak […]

Purposeful Sexuality | Ed Shaw

If God means for us to save sex for marriage, why doesn’t he just zap us with sexuality on our wedding night? Why do most of us experience sexual feelings throughout our adult lives, not just in the safe confines of marriage? Is limiting marriage to the union of a man and a woman anything […]

7 Myths About Singleness | Sam Allberry

If marriage shows us the shape of the gospel, singleness shows us its sufficiency. Much of what we commonly assume about singleness—that it is primarily about the absence of good things like intimacy, family, or meaningful ministry—is either flat-out untrue or, at the very least, shouldn’t be true. To be single, we often think, is to […]

The Meaning of Singleness | Danielle Treweek

Is Christian singleness a burden to be endured or a God-ordained vocation? Might singleness here and now give the church a glimpse of God’s heavenly promises? Dani Treweek offers biblical, historical, cultural, and theological reflections to retrieve a theology of singleness for the church today. Drawing upon both ancient and contemporary theologians, including Augustine, Ælfric […]

Grieving What Isn’t Q&A | Dr Jenny Brown

Follow up Q&A for ‘Grieving What Isn’t’ with Dr Jenny Brown.Recorded in 2023. How might single Christians genuinely mourn the unrealised potential of marriage (or remarriage) and children, while holding firm to the promises of God in Christ? How might married Christians walk alongside those singles who are grieving, all while pointing them to the […]

The Body is for the Lord (Talk 2) | Sam Allberry

Recorded on 30 July 2022 as part of our Being a Body Conference.We live in a world which says our bodies exist for pleasure and self-expression, and that this must be pursued at all costs. But the Bible tells us that our bodies have been made for holiness and self-control, and that rejecting this comes […]

The Lord is for the Body (Talk 1) | Sam Allberry

Recorded on 30 July 2022 at our Being a Body Conference We live in a world which says our bodies exist for pleasure and self-expression, and that this must be pursued at all costs. But the Bible tells us that our bodies have been made for holiness and self-control, and that rejecting this comes at […]

Single Minded Stories | Lee, Rhys & Anna

Recorded on July 30, 2022 at our Being a Body Conference. We live in a world which says our bodies exist for pleasure and self-expression, and that this must be pursued at all costs. But the Bible tells us that our bodies have been made for holiness and self-control, and that rejecting this comes at […]

Being a Body Q&A #1 | Sam Allberry

Being a Body Q&A #2 | Sam Allberry & Dani Treweek

Recorded on July 30, 2022 at our Being a Body Conference We live in a world which says our bodies exist for pleasure and self-expression, and that this must be pursued at all costs. But the Bible tells us that our bodies have been made for holiness and self-control, and that rejecting this comes at […]

Purity Culture, Then & Now | Rachel Joy Welcher

Recorded in 2022. What was (is?) purity culture? What legacy have we inherited from it? What is a biblical response to purity culture, both then & now? Rachel Joy Welcher, author of ‘Talking Back to Purity Culture’, helps us explore these questions and more This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your […]

A Pastors’ Heart to Heart | Sam Allberry & Nigel Fortescue

But…What’s Wrong with Marrying a Non-Christian? | Dani Treweek

Recorded in 2020. In a world (and a church) which so often idealises romance, sex, and marriage what are we to make of the Bible’s teaching about Jesus’ disciples not marrying a non-Christian? And does it really apply to us today? This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your own personal use. We hope […]

Friendship – Beyond the Superficial | Vaughan Roberts

Recorded in 2020. Right now the world is more connected than it ever has been before. So why do so many people report feeling lonelier than ever before? Whether you are married or single, join Vaughan as he takes us back to God’s word to think seriously about the good gift of friendship. Let’s consider how the gospel compels […]

Navigating Singleness within a Clash of Cultures | Susan An & Kamal Weerakoon

Recorded in 2020. Christian. Single. And from a traditional ethno-cultural background. How do each of these elements of our identity impact the way that we view ourselves and our singleness? How do you live well in a country that promotes individual freedom and happiness, but with a family who insists on traditional values of family and honour? Watch as we […]

In Love with Love – Pop Culture & the Church | Kutter Callaway

Recorded in 2020. Kutter Callaway takes us on an exploration of pop culture’s obsession with romance and sex; help us to consider how the Christian church often adopts that same troubling vision; and challenge us to see how Scripture is able to form the family of God to be both a distinctively gospel-oriented and life-giving […]

Singleness & Sexuality Q&A | Ed Shaw

Recorded in 2019. Is sexuality a curse for the single Christian? Ed Shaw explores the Bible’s teaching of what it means for unmarried Christian men and women to live as sexual beings… without sex. This is the Q&A session that followed Ed’s keynote talk. This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your […]

Singleness & Sexuality | Ed Shaw

Recorded in 2019. Is sexuality a curse for the single Christian? Ed Shaw explores the Bible’s teaching of what it means for unmarried Christian men and women to live as sexual beings… without sex. This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your own personal use. We hope it is a blessing to […]

Myths About Singleness | Sam Allberry

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this keynote talk, Sam Allberry explores four of the myths about singleness which he writes at more length about in his excellent book, 7 Myths About Singleness. Watch other […]

Q&A Session | Sam Allberry & Dani Treweek

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this video, Sam Allberry and Dani Treweek answer a range of questions submitted by the audience. Watch other videos in our First Ever Single Minded Conference series. This video […]

Rethinking Contentment | Chris Thomson

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this elective talk, Chris Thomson explores what the Bible has to teach about the nature of contentment in the Christian life, and singleness in particular. Watch other videos in […]

Loving Singles in Word and Deed | Paul Dale & Dani Treweek

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this elective talk, Paul Dale and Dani Treweek consider what it looks like for church communities and their members to truly love single Christians in both word and deed. […]

A Theology of Sexuality | Andrew Errington

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this elective talk, Andrew Errington helps us delve into the Bible’s teaching on God’s plans and purposes for human sexuality. Watch other videos in our First Ever Single Minded […]

Single Minded Stories #1 | Guest Panel

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Ministry Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this Single Minded stories panel discussion, three singles and one married pastor share their thoughts on singleness in the Christian life and community. This is part one of a […]

Single Minded Stories #2 | Guest Panel

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this Single Minded stories panel discussion, three singles and one married pastor share their thoughts on singleness in the Christian life and community. This is part two of a […]

Singleness in the Storyline of Scripture | Sam Allberry

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this keynote talk, Sam Allberry traces the place and purpose of singleness through the full storyline of Scripture. Watch other videos in our First Ever Single Minded Conference series. […]

The Art of Biblical Friendship | Ben Danson & Lisa Boyd

Recorded on September 22, 2018 at the first ever Single Minded Conference Watch where it all started back at the inaugural Single Minded conference in 2018! In this elective talk, Benjamin Danson and Lisa Boyd discuss the nature of friendship, the Bible’s teaching about its importance and how we might practice the art of it ourselves. […]

Grieving What Isn’t | Dr Jenny Brown

Recorded in 2023. How might single Christians genuinely mourn the unrealised potential of marriage (or remarriage) and children, while holding firm to the promises of God in Christ? How might married Christians walk alongside those singles who are grieving, all while pointing them to the certainty we have in Him? How do we grieve what […]

Singleness, Sin and Sanctification | Adam Ch’ng

Recorded in 2023. Are single Christians really more inherently selfish than married Christians? Is singleness really incapable of producing the same depths of spiritual growth and development that marriage does? Is marriage really the preferred route by which we are able to become more like Jesus? Adam Ch’ng explore what the Bible really says about singleness, […]

Q&A Guest Panel | Ruth, John, Adam & Justin

Recorded in 2023. A standalone Q&A webinar answering all sorts of questions about singleness and other related topics. Featuring Ruth Baker, John Lee, Adam Ch’ng & Justin Moffatt. This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your own personal use. We hope it is a blessing to you!

Q&A Discussion | Dani Treweek, Jordan Thyer & Rory Shiner

Recorded in 2023 A guest panel with Dani, Jordan and Rory following on from their talks in this series: This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your own personal use. We hope it is a blessing to you!

Singleness & God’s Providence | Jordan Thyer

Recorded in 2023 So much of the contemporary conversation about Christian singleness makes it an either/or matter. Either someone is single by choice or single by circumstance. Either they’ve intentionally set out to pursue singleness as a lifelong “calling” or their singleness is considered accidental. But how do we think about this in light of […]

The Either/Or Trap of Christian Singleness | Dani Treweek

Recorded 2023 So much of the contemporary conversation about Christian singleness makes it an either/or matter. Either someone is single by choice or single by circumstance. Either they’ve intentionally set out to pursue singleness as a lifelong “calling” or their singleness is considered accidental. But is this a biblical framework? Does the Bible present singleness […]

Hospitable Singleness | Nigel Fortescue

Recorded in 2023 Hospitality isn’t just a Christian cliche. It’s part of the very essence of being Christ’s people in this world. But how can those of us who are single practice hospitality? How can being single open up exciting, unique and unexpected opportunities to faithfully welcome others as we have been welcomed by Christ? […]

Valentine’s Day Q&A | Dani Treweek & Tamara Robson

A standalone Q&A webinar covering lots of different questions, recorded on Valentines’ Day 2023! This video resource is FREE to watch and stream for your own personal use. We hope it is a blessing to you!

The History of Valentine’s Day | Dani Treweek

Recorded in 2023. They say never to let facts get in the way of a good story. And Valentine’s Day certainly tells a good story, doesn’t it? Starting in mid-January every year, shop displays, social media ads, and streaming-service jingles are eager to sell us a story of love, romance, and happily-ever-afters come February 14. […]

The Situation in Which You Were Called | Rory Shiner

Recorded in 2023. So much of the contemporary conversation about Christian singleness makes it an either/or matter. We’re told either someone is single by choice or they are single by circumstance. But is this a biblical framework? Does the Bible present singleness as being either a result of direct choice or indirect circumstance? In this […]

My Loneliness and My Self | Lauren Errington

Recorded in 2021. People are complex. This means our relationships with each other are too. We’re all trying to navigate the fine balance between our own—and each other’s—longings for togethernesss, and also our need for some individuality. How do we as people – single and otherwise – look to relationships to make ourselves feel more […]

Finding God in Our Loneliness Q&A | Lydia Brownback

Recorded in 2021. Young or old, single or married—at some point in life, we’re all confronted with loneliness. We try to fill the void or change our circumstances so we no longer feel the pain. But what if our pangs of loneliness are meant to point us to something greater? Lydia Brownback (Author of ‘Finding […]

Finding God in Our Loneliness | Lydia Brownback

Loneliness and Christian Community | Simon Flinders

Recorded in 2021. One of the great blessings of Christian life is the fellowship we have with one another. But even though we are surrounded by brothers and sisters in Christ, sometimes we still feel lonely. This can be particularly true for single Christians. How can they faithfully navigate and respond to feelings of loneliness and […]

Speaking Louder than Loneliness | Mel Hanger

Recorded in 2021. For many single or single-again Christians, loneliness can be a regular companion and one that speaks into their lives in unique ways. Recognising, understanding and voicing our loneliness can be key to living well with that companion without being consumed by it. In this webinar, we consider why it’s important for single […]

Disarming a Pornified Culture | Marshall Ballantine-Jones

Recorded in 2021. How do Christians live wholeheartedly for Christ in a world saturated with and normalised by porn? Rev. Dr Marshall Ballantine-Jones helps us consider how Jesus confronts the insidious creep of sexualised media, which holds many of us captive, by exposing its malevolence, modelling a grander humanity while bringing forgiveness and healing to […]

Rethinking Biblical Sexuality Q&A | Juli Slattery

Recorded in 2021. Why did God create us as sexual beings? What is our sexuality ultimately for? Dr Juli Slattery (author of Rethinking Sexuality) helps us think biblically about the big picture of our sexuality, and especially how God is using it for his eternal purposes. This video is a Q&A following on from Juli’s […]

Rethinking Biblical Sexuality | Juli Slattery

Esteeming Faithful Celibacy | Dani Treweek

Recorded in 2021. Is celibacy simply a life of cruel suppression? Or could it actually be a life of godly expression? The world, and even the church, tends to see a life without sex as being no life at all. Dani Treweek helps us understand why Christian celibacy is not just realistic but a vitally […]

Disarming a Pornified Culture Q&A | Marshall Ballantine-Jones

Recorded in 2021 How do Christians live wholeheartedly for Christ in a world saturated with and normalised by porn? Rev. Dr Marshall Ballantine-Jones helps us consider how Jesus confronts the insidious creep of sexualised media, which holds many of us captive, by exposing its malevolence, modelling a grander humanity while bringing forgiveness and healing to […]

Hospitable Singleness & Fostering Children | Gemma Cardew

Recorded in 2023. Gemma is single and exercises her love of both hospitality and children in a very important and wonderfully unique way – she is a single foster mother to vulnerable children . Listen as Gemma explains why she is passionate about helping both married and single Christians see the need and opportunities to […]

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